Angell Kelly: Leaving Burnout Behind and Creating a Life Aligned With Purpose and Peace

Welcome to the Internal Shift Show. I'm Debbie

Longo, Transformational Coach. This show explores

how the way we think, decide, and respond internally

influences where we end up over time. Today's

conversation draws on real experience and expertise

to look at how small internal shifts can change

direction, momentum, and outcomes. We have a

very special guest today, Angel Kelly. Good afternoon,

Angel. Welcome to the show. Thank you for having

me, Debbie. Thank you for being here. So I am

going to ask you today to tell a little bit about

your story and explain a traumatic experience

or just the life change, something that happened

where you were in a negative, you went through

a process and the end result should always be

positive. Now, I do this for a few different

reasons. And one main reason is that everybody

has their own individual story. But there are

things in other people's stories that people

can relate to. And when i hear that i can say

maybe i am in a situation or there's a scenario

in my life that i am in a place where i'm stuck

or unhappy or i don't want to be that way anymore

or my thinking is not correct or i'm not filling

my goals and dreams there's a hundred different

examples of this. If they hear your story and

what happened to you, there's got to be somebody

out there that can relate to that. So if a listener

is listening, then they say, OK, this is what

happened and this is the process. Now they can

see. And then you're going to say your end result.

And now they could see that there's a light at

the end of the tunnel, whereas before they might

not be able to see that. And also a lot of times

people think that things are a lot more complicated

than what they actually are. And also when I'm

going through a process, right, it's like one

step takes me to another step takes me to another

step. And that's the way that a process is. It's

a very gradual thing. So these are some of the

reasons why I have this podcast. But and also

the last thing to the main thing is education,

just to explain that if I'm someplace I could

always get to a different place, because I don't

really believe that there's anything as anything

as such thing. as a negative situation or anything

like that, because that can always be overcome.

It can always be work through and we could always

change that. But that depends on the individual.

That's up to the individual decision and choice

whether they really want to change that or not.

So that's what we're trying to do here. And I

want to try to help people get out of their sick

and suffering and do something different if they

choose to. So if you could do that for me, I'd

appreciate it. Thank you. Love it. Yes. So I

love that the show is called the internal shift

because that's sort of like the truth that I

stand on, which is that our external world, our

circumstances are only ever a reflection of what's

going on inside. So for me, I had been on a spiritual

and healing journey for about eight years, and

a lot of that work was doing this internal shift

work. unblocking, limiting beliefs, subconscious

reprogramming, surrendering to God, all this

sort of stuff. And as I was doing this work,

my life was like starting to realign. Like my

external life was shifting to match the changes

I was making. So this was like money started

to get in a much better situation. I found love,

aligned friendships, happy home life, all this

sort of thing. But the one area that I couldn't

seem to budge was my work, what I was doing for

a living. And at that time, I was a full -time

geologist in Canada. And I wasn't just working

full -time. I was full -time and on call. So

I'd be at the office all day, then I'd be taking

calls all night, middle of the night, weekends

all the time, 24 hours a day, seven days a week

all year. And this was a pattern for me, this

working really hard, hustling, grinding. It had

been going on my entire life. This was just like

the worst version of it. And as much as I wanted

to change the external, like to just quit the

job and find something else, I knew that I had

to make the internal shift first. Because if

I just went out and change the external, I would

probably find myself in the same position in

another job. Because I wasn't changing what was

driving me underneath, which were these limited

beliefs that were saying, hard work. hustling,

doing the most, doing the best, gives me value,

gives me worth. So I had to do sort of this underneath

work before that could shift. So here I am working

away, doing my own inner work. And in May, 2024,

my boyfriend and I, at the time, we took a trip

to Greece on holiday. And while we were on holiday,

he proposed, which was this beautiful, magical.

event in our lives and it really shifted the

energy like something just shifted where we looked

at each other and we were like anything is possible

anything is possible together and so we asked

each other we could create any life we want what

life do we want to create and so we just started

like dreaming big dreams like throwing out the

most random stuff to I'm telling you and one

of those big dreams was oh we could restore one

of these broken down buildings in Greece and

turn it into a hotel and so we named that And

then, wouldn't you know it, God starts to like

usher in the perfect synchronicities, meeting

the perfect people, finding the perfect piece

of property. And we're like, oh, wow, this is

really interesting. But let's go back to Canada

and see if it sticks, because I'm pretty sure

everyone listening can think of a time that they

went on a trip and thought, I'm going to move

here. And then they go home and they go back

to their lives. So that was us. We go home, we

go back to our lives. But it stuck. It stuck.

We started to make a business plan. We started

to have meetings with new friends we'd made in

Greece. And fast forward exactly one year later,

we quit our jobs, sold everything, and moved

across the world from Canada to a Greek island.

And now we live these beautiful, aligned lives.

Our restoration project's underway. Life is much

slower, much quieter, at a much more beautiful

pace. I would account that to the internal work

being done before any of this could ever take

place. That was very good. Thank you. So when

you were going through this process, let's say

before you started the internal work, what made

you decide to start this? Was there an event?

Was there a decision? Was there a thought? What

what was it something in your life? What really

made you say because Like I think that I'll just

say for myself. I think that when I remember

when I was smaller I knew that life Didn't have

to be like hard like difficult But I don't know

if I knew anything about like that like inner

work or spiritual So that might be something

that would have to be learned Maybe it depends

on the person, I don't know. But I'm just saying

that if it is, right, if a person doesn't know

that, let's say a person doesn't know that or

they don't know what it means or anything, how

did you come to that decision, that thought,

that realization that you even needed to do it?

How did that start? Yeah, yeah. Well, like I

said, it was sort of the work I had been doing

for years up to that point. And so if I were

to scroll all the way back to before I even had

any sense of doing the inner work, it was a time

where I was at a rock bottom. I couldn't find

a job. I was single, unhappy, broke, all the

things. And I was doing everything I could to

try to control the external. I was applying for

jobs every day. I was networking. I was going

on dates. I was doing everything out here and

it wasn't working. It was not working. So at

some point or another, I whether God gave me

the idea or what, at some point or another, I

knew I had to go in within because going outside

of myself wasn't working. I was not getting results.

And when I turned within, and at that time it

was simple practices like journaling and meditating,

the basics, when I started, I actually started

to get results on the external. And so it was

really just sort of like a trial and error approving

to myself what works and what doesn't. Got me

to the point where I was like, okay pass for

whatever eight years later and I'm unhappy in

my career I knew the one person that could change

that was me was me going inward to my practices

Yeah, that was good. So it sounds like an intuition

kind of thing where you just knew that was your

path Like you said when you move to the Greek

islands and you you change your life to go there,

quit your job. So it sounds really like you just

knew your path and you followed it. Yeah. And

certainly like this particular jump all the way

across the pond was certainly guided by God and

my intuition. It wasn't I just pointed on a map

and thought, I'm going to live here. Never in

a million years did I think I would live in Europe,

Debbie. Never. Yeah. So I want what I want to

say is a little bit advanced, but I'm going to

say it anyway. One of the things I teach is that

the mind controls the body. And not only does

it control my thoughts because the action has

to be created by a thought. So first I have a

thought that could create a belief or a decision.

I make a decision and then the action is really

the last thing. And then I do the action. I can

control because I'm a human being. So I'm in

control of my thoughts and my actions. We're

not robots. I can make my own decisions. Nobody

forces anybody to do anything. I'm ultimately

going to decide myself exactly what I want to

do, what I want to say every day. And these are

the choices that I make. This is just one example.

We're talking here about your process, right?

Then from the negative to the positive and your

thinking, your thought pattern and how that changed

from when you were at your rock bottom to now.

This this this whole thing that we described

so far. So a lot of people like a lot of people

that I've helped to and I'm just saying from

a lot of years experience doing this work is

that what I think is going to come true. So if

I don't think and we also have this thing that

I really don't want to get into too much, but

it takes me to a manifesting part of a thing.

So if I think that I'm never going to find a

job. So I'm looking, oh, they tell me, oh, I

have to find another job. I don't like my job

or I'm not making enough money, whatever. I go

online and I do everything I gotta do. I look

on the websites, I do everything. I make the

resume. And as I'm going through everything,

I say to myself, I'm not going to find a job.

I'm not going to find a job. So even if I put

while I'm doing everything I'm supposed to do.

So even if I put that footwork in, I'm telling

myself this whole time that I'm not going to

find a job. Am I going to find a job? Of course

not. Probably not. I would add even further,

like the belief that's operating underneath,

because sometimes we can like paint on it. a

positive affirmation, be like, I'm going to find

a job. Today's the day. And we can really like

we can smear that on the surface all we want.

But if the belief operating underneath is I'm

not worthy, I'm not good enough, I can't. It

doesn't matter. You are not going to find one.

Yeah. And that's the process of me changing my

mindset for me to get to make a decision. And

that's going to create a belief. And then that

will allow me to take the action. So if I'm thinking

something and the action is different, then that

doesn't match up. And when it comes down to it,

it's like, who are we being? Are we being? Was

I being a woman who has to be super productive

all the time, work, work, work? Or am I being

a woman who knows her value and can slow down

and is still valuable even if she slows down?

Who are you being? And who are you being? Your

life is going to match whoever you're being.

And that's why I'm saying that's the part of

the process. So to me, like we're talking about

this one topic, but to me that to get to this

point or to get to any point that I want to get

to, there is a certain process, right, that I

have to go through in order to get to that point.

But if I'm just all over the map and let's say

I don't get help or anything, I'm a coach, but

I don't... This is not a promotional podcast.

I'm not trying to promote myself. I explained

in the beginning a whole intro about what this

podcast is about. So if I'm all over the map

and I don't get help, which is also something

I want to ask you, but I don't do anything to

come to that way of creating this process, right?

So I could get the proper result. And I think

maybe I think I'm a therapist or I think I'm

a coach or or I do self help or I watch a video

or something like that. And then I form this

whole thing in my head. And that is not the process

that's going to take me from one point to the

other. So if I want to go to my friend's house,

I say, how do I get there? What's your address?

What's your address? Do you I need like special

instructions or something? Do you like live in

a community? And she tells me how to get there.

So I'm pretty sure that if I follow her way,

I will get there. But if I say, oh, I don't want

to go that way, I'm going to go this other way

and then I'm going to say different streets or

whatever. Is there a good chance I'm going to

get there? Yeah, probably not. And the tricky

thing about the tricky thing about doing what

we know is what we know has gotten us to where

we are. And so if we want to get to a reality

outside of where we are and we're trying to use

our own mind and what we know, that's going to

be tricky. You need some inspiration. At least,

at the very least, you need to not be guided

by the mind, but be guided by something more

creative like the heart. But yes, that's where

you get these wonderful podcasts. You've got

books. You've got coaches. I mean, we have resources

that people like my mother and grandmother could

never dream of. It was just all books then. For

me. It was just all books, but I'm just saying

we in the past, but now we have the Internet

and everything. So we talked about you explained

a little bit about your process and how you got

to where you are now. What was your thinking?

What did that look like when you were going through

the transition of that year where you were? quit

your job and you did whatever you needed to do

to go to get to your island there where you live

now. What did that process look like and how

did you get to this point? Oh, it was scary.

I'll tell you that. At first, it was a lot of

like planning that didn't involve any commitment.

So that was easy to do. Still had my job. He

still had his, but. Finally, the day came where

it was like, OK, now we start to make big changes.

The first one for me being quitting my job, a

job that was paid very well for and that would

take me to retirement that I was well loved at,

all that sort of thing. And to quit a job and

not totally know where we were going to end up,

because you can try to plan Greece, but that's

you can't plan Greece from across the world.

You've got to go and see if it's going to work

out, you know. And so It all, it started to be

these, I had to let go of the things that couldn't

come with me into the reality I wanted to create.

And this is a part, this is a huge part of where

you want, when you want to make change, you must

be willing to let some things die, let some things

go. They will feel sad and bittersweet and scary,

but it is a huge part of it. Because if you try

to hold onto them and take them with you, you

won't go, you won't go. They'll drag you down

like a... So my process was really just knowing

I have a strong trust in God and strong trust

that I am guided. And I knew when the time was

right to start letting go. And first it was the

job and then it was letting our house go. Then

it was selling everything we had. Then it was

saying goodbye to everybody. It was scary to

me, but I have such faith and trust in God that

And that always every time I do that, every time

I surrender over to God, I get the most beautiful

result beyond what I could imagine. So it is

always worth it. Very nice. Yeah, that was very

good. So how do you feel today, right now, based

on everything that we just talked about this

whole entire podcast? How do you feel right now?

Thank you for asking that question, because it

almost makes me want to cry because I feel really,

truly grateful for Just even being able to talk

about this today helps me to see where I've come

from and the lives we live. I have purposely

built every inch of my life here consciously

and in alignment because Debbie, you take you

with you. So whatever patterns you had in the

last country you lived in, you will just create

them here. And so I had to be careful to not

bring that highly productive, super busy girl

here. And I had to let her die and stay in Canada.

And thankfully I was able to do that. And now

life is just, it just keeps getting better somehow.

I've created a business that is beautiful and

aligned. We've met wonderful people. The food,

the lifestyle, the quality of life. We're getting

married in a month. There's a lot to celebrate

and be grateful for. And somehow... it actually

keeps blossoming and growing. Somehow it keeps

getting better. Very good. Thank you. That was

very positive. So that was a good way to close.

And also in closing, I would like to say that

hopefully there is somebody that out there that

can relate to any part of this podcast at all.

And a lot of times it's the identification of

the thing, the situation, whatever it is, right,

that we want to be able to see and know because

if my life is not good and there is just even

a small part that I'm unhappy with, that life

can always be better. My life can always get

better every single day, every single minute.

And if there is something that I'm feeling that

I don't like right now, I could say, forget about

the past. I'm not interested anymore. I could

put my foot down and say this second today is

the day that I'm going to make this change because

I don't want to be this way. I don't want to

act this way. I don't want to look this way.

Whatever the situation is, you know, because

if I keep making changes and I keep working towards

my goals and dreams, right, or looking to improve

myself, let's just say, for example. What's going

to happen? I'm always going to move forward in

a positive direction. And that's just going to

keep me being more positive and more positive.

But if I go backwards and I'm in a negative towards

a negative direction, what's going to happen

then? That's going to keep me becoming more negative

and more negative. So this is your choice. This

is the individual's choice. This is the listener's

choice. Which way do they want to go? Now, I'm

all for being positive, obviously, but that's

up to the individual what they want to do. Yeah,

and I mean, really, if there's one thing I hope

people take from my story, it's that the life

that you want to live, you can live that life.

All that's standing in the way... are these limiting

beliefs, these blocks, but those can be worked

through. Like you talked about, like I talked

about, you can work through those. And on the

other side, you can have the life you dream of.

You absolutely can. Yeah. That was good. Thank

you. I really appreciate that. So as we close

this conversation is a reminder that progress

really comes from one big decision, but from

the internal choices we repeat. If something

from today's discussion connected with you, take

a moment to notice how those internal choices

showed up in your own life. This has been the

Internal Shift Show. Thank you for listening

and thank you, Angel, for being on the show.

I appreciate it. Thank you so much.